Sunday 2 June 2013

I Am now a Mother and a Wife,I Will Not Act Romantically In Movies Again - Dakore Akande

I have to consider my husband before taking any role these days. I will not do romantic roles as I used to back in the days. Though, if I see a role that is good and positive, maybe I could act. I am now a new Dakore and not the old Dakore people used to know because I am coming into a new era in my career.

I am now a mother and a wife. I just have to be more discerning about the movies that I embark upon.

Meet 3 year old Nigerian photographer - Fuji Remet

I'm sharing this post for two reasons: One, to introduce Fuji to Nigerians so we can celebrate him and two, to discuss if it's OK for a 3 year old to already have a career. He has an exhibition coming up so yes, he has a career! CNN profiled the young budding photographer on Inside Africa yesterday and below is what they wrote about Lil Fuji... 
While most children his age in Nigeria - and the rest of the world - are more concerned with their toys than a career, Onafujiri "Fuji" Remet has already embarked on his mission to become a professional photographer.
Proud dad Pius Kugbere Remet sent in these images of his talented young son posing with family and at work in Lagos.
Himself an artist and graphic designer, he says Fuji's inspiration came from the work of his creative family.
Little Fuji even has an exhibition coming up in Lagos on June 8. Not bad for a three-year-old.
See more photos of Fuji at work after the cut...



  
Little Fuji at work
 

Police in Spain smash Nigerian 'voodoo' Prostitution Ring



A Nigerian gang forced women into street prostitution in Spain by burning them with irons and using voodoo rituals, according to police.
Detectives have arrested six Nigerian nationals - including the suspected woman ringleader - as part of an investigation launched last year after one of the prostitutes filed a complaint with the authorities.
 
"The control exercised over women was total, involving verbal threats as well as physical violence and various voodoo ceremonies to terrorize them," police said in a statement.
"The ring caused them serious injury through bites or by using an iron to cause second-degree burns."
 
The ring allegedly recruited women in Benin City, whose husbands and fathers had died and who were struggling to raise their children.
They transported the women overland to Morocco and then smuggled them on small wooden boats into Spain where they were forced to work as street prostitutes in Barcelona and Malaga.
 
Spanish police have swooped several times in recent years on similar prostitution rings that used the threat of voodoo curses to frighten their victims into obedience.
Before leaving Nigeria, the rings often take their victims to shrines where they swear to pay their debts to the group and not to denounce them to the police.
The women leave fingernails, hair, underwear and other personal items at the shrines which they are told will give voodoo priests the power to harm them wherever they are in the world

D'banj's most expensive fashion item


When asked to mention the most expensive fashion item he has in a recent Punch interview, D'banj said he has a $50, 000 (N7.9m) FM wrist watch and has another watch that Jay Z also owns.
"I’m always wearing expensive things; like now, I have two watches on my wrist. I’m putting on a Franck Muller, master of complication. It goes for at least $50,000. The other is a big face, the same one Jay-Z is rocking."
Asked to describe his fashion style, D'banj said:
I don’t know. I just dress how I want to be addressed. Sometimes, I want to look like a biker, sometimes I want to look like a billionaire. I wanted to get myself a power bike until I started making it. I had to decide against it because if I get injured, I would not be able to perform. Right now, I can only ride through video games

Photos: Blue Ivy parents (Jay Z and Beyonc cuddle on stage


Beyonce invited Jay Z to join her on stage yesterday night during the Chime For Change concert at Twickenham Stadium in London. The crowd at the concert went crazy when Jay Z appeared on stage because no one was expecting him. They performed Crazy In Love together

Photos:Nigerian Footballer John Utaka weds in France

The Super Eagles striker got married this weekend in France. Kanu Nwankwo and his wife pictured with the newly married couple in the right picture.

Guaranty Trust Bank Wins African Bank Award Of The Year

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Guaranty Trust Bank Plc has been named the African Bank of the Year by the African Banker Magazine.
The honour was conferred on the bank on Wednesday at a well attended ceremony in Marrakech, Morocco.
A statement on Friday said the African Banker Award was for recognised financial institutions across the continent, which were considered industry leaders and continent’s trend setters.
It listed good corporate governance practices, exceptional service delivery and innovative products as major factors considered in the selection.
“Winners of the coveted award must have consistently reported strong financial performance and contributed significantly to the quality of service offered by the financial services industry within their country and across the African continent,” it stated.
The statement quoted the Publisher of African Banker Magazine, Mr. Omar Ben Yedder, as saying, “We are delighted that Guaranty Trust Bank Plc has won this award.
“Indeed it has been a good evening for Nigerian banks and GTBank has consistently played a leading role in banking in Nigeria. Prudently run, with strong values, it continues to set new standards in banking. Its successful foray in international markets reflects strong fundamentals of a leading institution in Africa.”
The Chief Executive Officer, GTBank, Mr. Segun Agbaje, attributed the bank’s selection for the prestigious award to hard work, discipline and a well defined operating strategy “that enables it to give 100 per cent, above customer expectations, every single time.”
He stressed that customer satisfaction and service excellence were the foundation of the bank’s business, adding that GTBank would continue to listen to its stakeholders and institute innovations that allow the bank to provide services that surpassed its stakeholders’ needs.
Guaranty Trust Bank was established in 1990.

‘Unknown woman’ gave Mercedes G55 to man ‘expelled’ from Saudi for being ‘too handsome’


An Emirati asked to leave Saudi Arabia last month for being “too handsome” has received an expensive G55 Mercedes car from an unknown woman, just a month after he hit headlines worldwide following his alleged expulsion from the conservative Gulf Kingdom.
Omar Borkan Gala told a well-known western magazine that he had been gifted the car, worth more than $100,000, to mark his birthday.
“I got a Mercedes G55 for my birthday from a woman I didn’t know,” the race-car enthusiast told the US ‘InTouch’ gossip weekly.
“It came to my place, and I was told, ‘Just sign and take it.’ That’s amazing!”
The magazine said the self-described poet and model, and now an upcoming film star, woke up on his birthday recently with a knock on his door and greeted by a man with keys in his hands and a paper for him to sign on.
“It was one of the most memorable birthday gifts he had received. Omar expressed how happy he was for the offers that have been pouring in since the news of his deportation broke out and has gone viral in the worldwide web,” the report said.


Football Transfer stories and gossip from Daily Mirror

Gareth Bale has been told not to pass up the chance of moving to Real Madrid this summer by former Bernabeu star Steve McManaman. Mark Hughes hopes to make Holland international Erik Pieters his first big signing at Stoke City. Louis van Gaal, the coach leading Holland to the World Cup Finals in Brazil, says he wants to join a Premier League club next summer. John Heitinga has urged Fenerbahce to make a fresh bid to rescue him from his Everton nightmare. Steve Clarke wants West Brom chairman Jeremy Peace to step up contract negotiations with Youssouf Mulumbu to avoid losing him to Fiorentina. Rene Meulensteen is set to become the new manager of Wigan this week. Transfer stories and gossip from other papers and websites :- Atletico Madrid are interested in replacing outgoing striker Radamel Falcao with Liverpool's wantaway front man Luis Suarez . (Mail on Sunday) Spurs will tell Gareth Bale that he's not for sale at any price, despite reported interest from Real Madrid. (Sunday Telegraph) Real Madrid are poised to offer a world record-breaking­ £85million for Gareth Bale . (The Times) Aston Villa's Belgian striker Christian Benteke may opt to tell the club he wants to leave, with Arsenal and Tottenham ready to pounce. (Daily Express) Arsenal's German striker Lukas Podolski is a reported target for Champions League finalists Borussia Dortmund. (The Sun) Arsenal transfer target Clement Grenier has admitted he wants to leave Lyon. (Metro) Manchester City target Jesus Navas has confirmed he will leave Sevilla this summer. (L'Equipe) Cesc Fabregas will meet Barcelona boss Tito Villanova to discuss his future. (Mail on Sunday)

20 YEARS AFTER JUNE 12: What Transpired Inside Aso Rock Just Before Annulment – Tonnie Iredia, NEC Spokesman

Transpired Inside Aso Rock Just Before Annulment – Tonnie Iredia, NEC Spokesman 02.06.2013, 13:32 Features Is it not amazing and amusing that 20years after the annulment of the June 12, 1993, presidential election, leaders of Nigeria's Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, last week, engineered the annulment of the chairmanship election of the Nigeria Governors' Forum, NGF? In 1993, Bashorun MKO Abiola of the Social Democratic Party, SDP, defeated Bashir Tofa of the National Republican Convention, NRC, but the announcement of the results was ordered suspended by an Abuja High Court (which the law had barred from entertaining the suit). This is Nigeria where anything can and, thus, happen! The June 12 presidential election remains the freest and fairest in the history of Nigeria. But it was annulled 20years ago this month. In the build-up to this two-part series, a few Nigerians spoken to insisted that the country has moved on. Indeed, that is true; but the country has merely moved on in the wrong direction on a faulty premise (Read main story). In this first major interview with Tonnie Iredia, the Director of Public Affairs for the National Electoral Commission, NEC, since those dark days, he makes some startling revelations. And because it is vintage Iredia, you would observe the ease with which he tries to make sense in the simplest of ways, of issues that may appear at once complex and complicated. This was not the first meeting with Iredia. Sometime in September 1987, a young-looking man, neatly dressed, walked out of the Office of the Chairman, National Electoral Commission, NEC, Professor Eme Awa. It was the first time we (political correspondents attached to the beat made up of the late Chris Imodibe and Al-Bishak, The Guardian; Gboyega Amoboye and Kolawole Ojelabi, National Concord; Anene Ugoani, Daily Times; Dipo Onabanjo, Punch; Comrade Dangana, New Nigerian; Jide Ajani, The Republic; among others) were having a meeting with him and one of the first arguments was why NEC and not NECO should be the acronym of the National Electoral Commission. This was at the old Senate Building, Tafawa Balewa Square, Race Course, Lagos. His argument was about the need for credibility in the process because the 'CO' part of the acronym had a lot to do with FEDECO (the Federal Electoral Commission) of old which was the bye-word for manipulation and fraud. Penultimate week in Abuja, Iredia, who is a trained lawyer and a PhD holder, explained what went down at the NEC headquarters between June 10, 1993 and the days following the election. This is just the first part. Excerpts: Let us start on this note. June 12, 1993 presidential election was annulled. You were the Director of Public Affairs for the then National Electoral Commission, NEC. Some people have said there was a hidden agenda. This month marks 20 years after that event. What would be your first shot? I believe that there was a hidden agenda behind June 12. I don't know who had that agenda. But I will not exonerate government because of vicarious liability and you must take both the blame and credit for whatever happened in your administration. There were things that make me feel that there was really a hidden agenda and a lot of people had an interest in that military government continuing in office in perpetuity. Iredia In this course of investigating this story and speaking to a lot of insiders, I gathered that NEC officials had gone to Aso Rock Presidential Villa on Thursday, June 10, 1993, to brief members of the Transitional Council on preparations for the election and that an altercation occurred that was later to make sense. When we went to brief the transitional administration at that time, one of the very senior members of government first made a side talk that almost turned into something else by asking what we were really in the Villa for. And we said we came to brief government on the preparations for the election of the day after tomorrow. And he said, 'oh, is there going to be an election'? At the point this interrogation went on, we thought it was a joke. Did this make any sense to you at that time? No! It was as if some people in government just wanted to be sure, but with what happened later that night, it became clearer what had transpired earlier in the day. This was in the morning of Thursday, June 10, 1993? Yes! It became clear that some people in government had a fore knowledge about what would later happen that night; because I no longer took that to be a joke after the events that happened later in the day. (An Abuja High Court ordered that the election should not hold and the judgment was delivered by Justice Ikpeme, a lady, at 9:35pm, less than 36hours to the election; the commission, however, went ahead to organize the election based on backing from the government of the day). The election was on Saturday, June 12, the next day (after the election), the government newspaper of the time, the New Nigerian, wrote an editorial and what the newspaper said was what the other side of the argument had been saying but, more importantly, the newspaper accused the electoral commission of going ahead with the election when it knew that members of the public had been confused about the election holding or not. In any case, it further said the commission should have enlightened Nigerians very well that the election was still going to hold. But I find that very funny because one of the things that nobody would not take away from that commission was effective publicity. Some people were even accusing Nwosu of being too publicity conscious and, if anything, maybe there was something that the government wanted the commission to do but which it was not told. Up until the month of June (1993), Nigerians remained long-suffering despite the shifting of the terminal date for the transition programme. Most people have their versions of what happened. You were in NEC. There was this body called the Association for Better Nigeria, ABN, led by Arthur Nzeribe and one Abimbola Davies, which was conducting its affairs in a manner meant to injure NEC. Did the commission make any move to government to say 'please intervene in what these people are doing?' Well, we didn't think that the goal of ABN was to injure the electoral commission even though if they were to succeed, the injury on us would be indirect in terms of our image. The intention was to destabilize the transition programme which was dearer to the government than even NEC. So, if the government in power was going to allow a group, by whatever name called, to destabilize its programme, then it would be foolhardy for an electoral body to say 'we are not going to allow you injure our image'. Because this was going to be more than an election, it was about the entire programme that the group was angling to injure. The late Augustus Aikhomu, who was then Vice President, did issue a statement that the transition programme did not have a hidden agenda; that the government was going to keep its promise; they kept telling us not to lose faith, not to listen to rumours. Government made several pronouncements and that gave us the impression that government was honest and sincere and that, in the event of a legal battle, these people were going to lose. In retrospect, would you agree that NEC should have placed it on record that it approached government and warned government of the implications of the activities of the ABN, especially since the transition decree spelt out punishment for saboteurs of the programme? All that you've said was for government. For us in the commission at that time, we were sure of one thing, that the efforts of the ABN could not stop us. And you see, the laws setting us up made it very clear that 'NOTHING' could stop us. You can do whatever you like - you can sue us, take us to court, obtain injunctions and what have you - but we were not going to stop what we were doing because we did not see any challenge or any obstacle in that way. We would have preferred that there was peace and no distractions. We didn't see the need to go and start fighting ABN since ABN had been put in a state that it could not stop us and, indeed, it could not stop us. Now to that judgment on the night of Thursday, June 10, 1993! The judgment was delivered at 9:35pm and, judging by the schedule of work just two days to the election, you would have still been in the office. What was the first reaction when you heard the judgment? The first reaction really was that we thought it was a joke. Nobody in the commission believed that there was any such judgment. Especially at 9:35pm? Yes, at 9:35pm.The day had ended and, if the court was going to do anything, it would have to be the following day. So, where exactly were most officers of the commission at that time? Some of us were still in the office, some were at home, some were in the hotels and we started calling one another and the general response was 'please come off it', 'which type of joke is that?', 'which court'? We all thought it was a joke until the following morning when we saw the papers and the press was abuzz with the judgment. It didn't make sense to us. What did Professor Nwosu, your chairman, do? He put a call across to Aso Rock and we were told that we should just continue with our work. So, the chairman called a press conference and announced that NEC was going ahead and that nothing was going to stop us. Couldn't the commission have gone to court that Friday to obtain an injunction? Well, that position was canvassed by some people in the commission. But, at that point, there was a legal advice which was quite persuasive. It was a judgment delivered by Justice Oguntade, an outstanding Nigerian judge. Some people had sought to stop us from conducting an election earlier and Oguntade said the decision of the court stopping us was illegal; that the law setting us up had made that clear; and he also said that such a judgment was in vain and that the commission was free to ignore that judgment and that the commission even had no business going on appeal. Iredia That judgment was read to us and we were convinced that we had no business appealing the judgment and that the commission could just go about its business. So, with that, we didn't have any business finding out about what the rule of law said more so since the government itself had given assurances that we should just go ahead. Some times when people talk about rule of law under a military, some of us laugh. What is rule of law when military makes bad laws? In law, a bad law is a retrospective law. A bad law is a law that targets individuals which the military was very good at. That election held and held well. But we've never had that type of peaceful elections again. What conditions made it possible to have that type of ambience? We must give that credit to the military. But the other side of it is that military-organised elections are no elections because people are virtually cowed into doing what they do. The militarization is such that you begin to wonder whether you were actually holding an election. Professor Nwabueze, the learned legal luminary, drew attention to the fact that in 1993 alone, over 103 decrees were promulgated to regulate elections. You can imagine that with such number of decrees, nobody really knew whether we were doing elections or not. That election was free and fair to the extent that the kind of things that people were able to stomach was just so that the military should go such that Nigerians conditioned themselves to tolerate the plethora of decrees regulating elections - like disqualifying people in the morning and bringing them back with another decree in the evening. People accepted the things that they would not accept today because they wanted the military to go. But we must also be fair that the Nwosu team was quite knowledgeable, was quite articulate, and the plans were very, very detailed. And then there was this inter-governmental agency set up just for the election in which everybody put all hands on deck. I want to believe that it would take a long while to have that type of election again if ever we do. The election held but the Chief Judge of Abuja ordered NEC to stop announcing the results. Now, why did NEC, which claimed that the laws setting it up forbade it from obeying the court, turn round to obey the fresh order? What happened? Late MKO Abiola and IBB Wonderful! This question had been asked before but let me tell you that people did not understand what transpired. The first judgment issued by Justice Ikpeme was disobeyed by the electoral commission with the active support of the government. The government itself came up with a statement that it was going ahead with the election and, therefore, the commission had the government of the day behind it. But there was this argument put forward by our legal department that, as of that day, the statute, case law, had been put down by Oguntade and we did not have any business obeying a court that had been disallowed from stopping us; that we didn't have any business going on appeal because the previous judgment had shown that we had no business obeying it; and the mood of the nation was such that the election had to hold.Therefore when the chairman came out to say the election would be held, there was jubilation and the mood of the nation was one of relief. Then the second judgment came. Sorry, before that second judgment given by the Chief Judge of Abuja, Dahiru Saleh, did you not see any signs to show that something untoward could happen? Good. I, as Director of Public Affairs of the commission, brought some innovations, one of which was that the results were to be mounted on a scoreboard outside the commission's building but within its compound so that people who were just passing by on the street would be updated with the latest and we were supposed to be displaying these results as and when they were certified to be correct, counted; and collated and the agents agreeing and affirming the authenticity of the results, we would go ahead and put on the scoreboard. After about eight of the results from the states had been put on the scoreboard, I was called into the office of the chairman and was told to go and remove the scoreboard. I became shocked when I heard this. This was before the second judgment ordering NEC to stop? Yes! The second judgment had not come. I was told to go and remove it, that there was no need to display inchoate results because it was not good to start telling people who was leading when the whole results had not been received. I didn't know if this was a new thinking by members of the commission or whether it was the political parties themselves who wanted this. Today, many people blame the military but it was the political parties that instigated most of the things the military did. It was the politicians themselves who went to the military to complain that the primaries they conducted, to determine who their candidates would be, was fraught with irregularities and dangers and that the process should be canceled. By the time the then military president came out to disqualify the candidates, people said the military didn't want to go. Meanwhile, it was these same candidates who went and complained that their own primaries were useless and that they should be canceled. I suspect that it was these same politicians who came up with the idea that we should stop announcing the results on the scoreboard. For the first time, the directive instructing me not to display the results was not rational; it wasn't like the directives I usually got. The persons telling me to stop didn't even look persuaded and persuasive enough about the instruction. It was as if something negative was in the air because we had announced the governorship election results in the same way, so what was the big deal? Was this instruction from Professor Nwosu, your chairman? I think it was from the election committee, which had the chairman, the chief returning officer, the resident electoral commissioners, national commissioners and the representatives of the two political parties. They were all there. They said we should stop displaying the results. At that point, I lost hope in the process; so when just later, a court ruled that we should stop announcing results, it looked as if it was a script. I didn't know how others felt but I became disillusioned because we had done our best and one of the innovations was this result announcement on the spot. So, if it had been announced on the spot where the result, was counted and collated and I received it in the headquarters, why shouldn't I display it for Nigerians? That put me off. Back to the question of the court judgment that we obeyed! There was no meeting at which the decision to obey was made and, if there was any such meeting, I wasn't there. Most decisions at that time were unanimous. Though I wasn't a member of the commission, I was a staff, a director, but I was always privy to decisions and events that influenced such decisions so that, in making public statements, I would be seen to be credible and on top of the matter; so when the decision was made, I wasn't in the picture whether it was a one-man decision or the committee agreed. And there was nothing to suggest that this was coming while the commission prepared for the election? And then the second judgment came stopping the announcement of the results and the commission obeyed? I was able to understand why the commission obeyed because something that was present when the commission disobeyed in the first instance was no longer present by the time the second judgment came. It was the government of the day. In fact, the judgment by Dahiru Saleh was that he was going to issue a court warrant to arrest Nwosu and his principal officers for disobeying the Ikpeme judgment. The first order was an order that was inanimate; the second one was personal on Nwosu and his principal officers, to show cause why they should not be jailed for contempt. Personal liberty was now involved; it was no longer just an order for the organization. Now it was clear that there was personal danger. We could not revert to government again. Why? You won't believe that the warrant and judgment by Saleh was served on us by the then Attorney General, Clement Akpamgbo; so, there was actually nobody to run to because the Attorney General would have been the one we could have approached but here we were, he was the one who served it on us and I remember what he told the chairman. He told the chairman that if you disobey, then you are on your own; and so we knew that any disobedience was at our own peril.

9 things you should have learned by age 21

 To succeed in life, if you can’t rest on the fact that you’re the best at something.  You have to also strive, work hard, and be personable. Dear Pals, No one knows it all, and sometimes the things that you do know, you might have to be reminded from time to time.  Now, I don’t want you to think that I see you all as incompetent, or “fell off of the potato truck,” but everyone needs a helpful reminder.  I’m not above self approving and through out my life there are things that I learned  that I still have to remind myself each day.  I also know that the site carries a myriad of readers from high schoolers, college aged, and fly women, so to each, here are a few things to remind yourself as you go through your daily life.  Also, feel free to add in the comment section anything that I might have missed.  Remember, self-improvement is the best improvement. The world does not stop just because you’re having a bad day I have to be honest, I’m new to some of the popular reality shows that are out now, so every now and then I try to give them a shot and catch up on what I missed, so bear with me as I recap something you’ve seen last year.  During the first season of “Love and Hip Hop Atlanta,” the rapper Rasheeda was preparing to release a music video for her single “Marry Me.”  Her husband, Kirk, had a set budget and eliminated a few things.  Rasheeda retaliated by being 2 hours late. It is understandable if you’re having a bad day to take some time for yourself, but you can’t expect for the world to stop spinning just because you do.  There are some occasions that you can take a moment from it, but just by blowing important things off, just because you’re mad/sad/annoyed, doesn’t fly.  Especially if you have something very important to do, because not everyone is patient to wait for you to get out of your funk or get yourself together. “You are not a unique snowflake” In my “Tyler Durden” voice.  For those who haven’t seen the movie or read the book Fight Club, I suggest that you put it in your “to watch” and “to read” pile.  One of my favorite lines from the movie and book is:  ”You are not a beautiful or unique snowflake.”  As bogus as that comes off, in a way, it is true.  Yes, there is only one “you,” however, if you’re sitting back and thinking:  ”I know I’m going to make it because no one can do it like me,” that’s when you’re sadly mistaken. Yes, you do have an amazing talent, but you’re not the only one with it.  To succeed in life, if you can’t rest on the fact that you’re the best at something.  You have to also strive, work hard, and be personable.  Yeah, you might be able to do something fantastic, but always remember that there is someone else who can always take your place if need be. Do not become comfortable in dysfunction Life is extremely crazy sometimes and sometimes when you’re trying to learn how to roll with the punches, you end up allowing yourself to stay in an unhealthy situation due to laziness.  Now it’s true that you can’t spell “dysfunctional” without “fun,” but too much “fun” can be bad for you. If you’re in a bad relationship, or poor situation in your life, don’t become comfortable in it.  You definitely deserve better in your life. Two half people do not make a whole person As humans we are meant to be social creatures, and wanting to be in a romantic relationship is expected.  However, if you feel as if you are a hurt and broken person, trying to be in a relationship should not be a means for you to feel better about yourself.  It’s even worse when you try to get into a relationship with someone who is just as broken as you are.  Just because you two find each other, doesn’t mean that you should be together.  Make sure that you’re in a better, more whole place first before you enter into a relationship with someone else. “Scared money don’t make money” Far be it for me to say that Ray-J doesn’t occasionally make good sense, but when he appeared on “The Breakfast Club,” he said a line that really rang true.  ”Scared money don’t make money.”  When trying to go after your dream job, it can be extremely terrifying, and a lot of times we can talk ourselves out of something.  However, letting your fear consume you only hinders you and your ability to succeed.  You have to want it more than you are afraid of it.  Only then will you be able to succeed. All criticism isn’t “hate” Yes, you are amazing, wonderful, and fabulous, but just because someone points out a flaw doesn’t mean that they’re hating on you.  There will be people who will only want to point our your weaknesses so they can feel better about themselves, but just because someone criticizes you (especially if it’s constructive) doesn’t mean that you should dismiss it.  See it as something to help you improve yourself.  Even if they are trying to hate, use it as a means to better yourself. Sometimes it’s not everyone else There’s a story of a man who went to a friend’s house, but shortly left after he smelled a foul smell.  He went to another friend’s house, and left for the same offense.  After visiting multiple friends’ homes and deeming them disgusting, he goes to his house, to find that the odor was at his house.  Turns out the source of the odor was something foul that he stepped in and carried into each house. Remember that when you’re thinking that there’s something wrong with everyone else in the world, that’s the moment you need to check yourself and make sure that you’re not playing a role in the craziness.  Remember what Albert Einstein said:  ”Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”  If your personality persists and you keep on losing friends in new relationships, that’s when introspection is needed. Sometimes closure is a solitary act It would be nice if life was like the movies, or television shows, where you can get answers to how and why certain things happened, or why people do what they do.  However, life isn’t like that, and obsessing over the fact someone hurt you is doing more harm to you than them.  If you feel like getting answers will help you to heal, then go for it.  However, sometimes you have to get your closure on your own. Keep your name good in these streets After finally watching “Love and Hip Hop New York,” I was introduced to Raqi Thunda.   After having issues with Joe Budden, Consequence, and Jen the Pen, when Raqi went back to Hot 97 to be told that her beefs are keeping her from prospering.  No, you will not be be best friends with everyone, but you should be at least on a cordial tip with most, because especially in this day and age, it’s not what you know, it’s who you know.

Good people still exist: Bus driver returns passenger’s N429,000 in Osogbo

A mini bus driver in Osogbo, Osun state was on Saturday commended for being a true selfless Nigerian after he returned N49,000 cash and a cheque of N380,000 to the owner who left a purse containing the money and the cheque in his bus. The owner was said to have boarded the mini-bus from Fakunle area of Osogbo to Aregbe. The owner of the items, Mrs Olubunmi Adeleke, a teacher at Our Lady and St. Francis College, Osogbo who left the purse containing the items never thought it would be returned to her. It was only a sad moment for when she realized her mistake. Mrs Adeleke lives at Agunbelewo area of Osogbo while the cheque was written in her favour from her co-operative society. Speaking in Osogbo, Mrs. Adeleke said, “I was really devastated when I realised that I had misplaced the purse. “I got the N380,000 cheque from my cooperative for a private project. I was about to give up all hope when the bus driver traced me and returned all my money and personal effects intact,” she said.  The God fearing 33-year-old driver, Bisi Oladimeji, who lives in Ikirun, but operates in Osogbo with a mini bus registered, XA 76 RGB said that although he was in need of money he could have just parted with such money which obviously was not hers, “I couldn’t have taken what is not mine.” She said Oladimeji said he became a bus driver since he could not get a white-collar job. In His words, “I have a Higher National Diploma,HND, in Accountancy from the Federal Polytechnic, Offa. The bus is not my own; I am just a hired driver; I do it to keep soul and body together.” He said he sat for the recent Osun Civil Service Commission recruitment examination and scored 199, adding that “although I don’t know whether I would be employed, but I know that only God can bless me. “When I saw the purse in my bus, I checked inside and found an identity card showing where the passenger works,” he said. When asked how he locate the owner of the purse, Oladimeji said, “I traced the school in Isale Aro area of Osogbo and from there, I was directed to Mrs. Adeleke’s house and I gave her the purse. Everything in the purse was intact when she checked inside.”

Blundering Premier League prematurely announces Mourinho's Chelsea comeback

It hasn't exactly been one of football's best-kept secrets. But the official Premier League website jumped the gun by posting an article prematurely announcing that Jose Mourinho is back in charge at Stamford Bridge. The article, dated Monday 3 June, appeared this morning with the title 'Mourinho returns as manager of Chelsea'. And it revealed that the Portuguese coach has signed an 'xx-year contract'. The article was later removed - perhaps after someone had made an early Sunday morning dash to the office to hit the delete button. Mourinho ended his three-year reign at Real Madrid on Saturday night with a 4-2 win over Osasuna. The 50-year-old bid farewell to the fans ahead of the game and then received a mix of cheers and jeers at the Bernabeu hours later. But there were question marks raised over the future of Manchester United and Chelsea target Cristiano Ronaldo, who missed the match with the Spanish club citing back injury for his absence from the squad. After the match Mourinho waved to the Real fans before heading swiftly down the tunnel. Meanwhile, former Chelsea defender Ricardo Carvalho believes that his old boss can bring the Premier League trophy back to Stamford Bridge once again. Carvalho told Sky Sports: 'I'm sure in two, three years they can but even in his first year he can win it again. 'When we arrived together in 2004 Chelsea had not won the league for 50 years so I hope now they can win it again. Jose is a special coach and I think he deserves all the best because he works very hard. 'Chelsea are a special club for me and I wish for them to win the Premier League again.'

Menopause needn't spell the end for your sex life

The success in trials of a ‘female Viagra’ ignited debate this week when Lybrido was shown to increase desire and sexual satisfaction in women who’d gone off sex. As a GP, I regularly speak to women who are unhappy with their sex lives - finding they are uninterested and don’t enjoy it. Such a problem can be devastating for a relationship, and medical investigation and treatment CAN help. NHS patients can’t access drugs just yet, but there are other options. Sexual dysfunction in men is much more obvious. Is there really a need to treat women? Very much so - but seeking help can be tricky as there is no definition of normal sexual activity: it is totally subjective. I would define loss of libido as being a noticeable reduction for the individual on her terms. If there’s no medication for female low libido, why should I bother seeing my GP? This new drug won’t be available for three years but we do have other treatment options. Low libido could be caused by a health issue. Thyroid problems or hormonal changes after pregnancy can reduce sexual desire, as can many medications, including antidepressants, contraceptive pills and blood-pressure tablets. But surely that lessening of desire in older women is a natural process? A woman’s libido diminishes after the menopause but that does not mean all women are comfortable with it. I have lots of patients who want to maintain an active sex life many years afterwards. Dealing with low libido is no different from alleviating other menopausal symptoms, which we do through HRT. If the problem is low hormone levels, why not just restore them through HRT? The idea that replacing hormones will improve sexual function is over-simplistic: that is why this new drug is a breakthrough as it combines testosterone - the male hormone associated with sexual desire - with a male erectile dysfunction drug to enhance blood flow. Could sexual counselling help? If no clear clinical cause  or lifestyle problem exists, then women with reduced  libido should be offered therapy options. Psychosexual counselling is available on the NHS, although the waiting lists are long. This is a type of behavioural therapy and often couples attend the sessions together. For those who don’t want to wait, the charity Relate, which provides help for relationship problems, offers low-cost therapy.

Nigeria loses N965bn annually to oil theft -Shell

The Shell Petroleum Development Company has raised the alarm that Nigeria loses $6.1bn (N965bn) annually to oil theft. It warned that the negative impact of pipeline vandalisation, oil theft and illegal refineries could affect Nigeria's economy and environment. The company's Manager, Government, Community Relations, Mr. Krukrubo Evans; General Manager, Nigeria Content Development, Mr. Igo Weli and Head, Oil Spill Response, Mr. Pat Agbo, spoke in Yenagoa, Bayelsa State, on Friday. Evans who was represented by Mr. Funkakpo  Fufyin, decried that activities of oil thieves had forced the SPDC to close oil production in its Nembe Creek Trunk Line in the state. He said the shutdown of the facility had led to the loss of 150,000 barrels of oil per day, adding that the development had reduced the revenue accruing to the derivation account. Prior to the shutdown, he said the SPDC discovered over 90 different punctured points on the 90km pipeline, adding that the company had commenced repairs of the trunk line. "Our biggest worries are crude oil theft and illegal refineries. They are bringing down the economy. Nigeria loses 150,000 barrels per day amounting to $6.1bn annually to oil theft. "Illegal refineries are destroying our environment. We are pushing and talking to the government and other stakeholders to do something about it. These crude theft and illegal refineries have to stop," he said. He decried the mode of operation of illegal refineries and said operators only took 30 per cent of the crude oil products and "pour the rest into the environment." He identified the company's facilities in Bodo West, Imo River, Nembe Creek Trunk Line, coastlines offshore Niger Delta as the hot spots for illegal bunkering. He said the SPDC had put measures in place to gather gas and stop flaring it, adding that it had stopped flaring gas in Bayelsa State. He added that the oil company had taken measures to stop oil theft by monitoring its pipeline through detective equipment and aerial surveillance. But Weli said the country's Local Content Development was not operating in its full capacity adding that the youth lacked opportunities to prove their potential. According to him, effective operation of the content development would solve the problems of unemployment in the country. He added that the impediments to the Local Content Act should be removed to achieve the aims of the initiative. Also, experts in the petroleum industry and the economy have warned that continued oil theft in the Niger Delta poses a threat to the country's economy. The experts, who reacted to reports of 127,000 barrels per day drop in oil production, urged the Federal Government to equip security forces to stop oil theft. Former Group Managing Director of the Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation, Mr. Chamberlain Oyibo, told SUNDAY PUNCH that the drop in oil production by over 120, 000bpd, was significant and could hurt Nigeria's economy which largely depends on oil. He said, "120, 000 barrels of oil per day is a lot of oil. If you look at the economy, it's enormous for a country that depends majorly on oil income for its development. And oil theft, which is causing this drop, can be combated by the security agencies making sure that it is stopped. "The stolen oil is either taken offshore and loaded in the ships, or refined locally. I think the Navy and the Air Force can stop oil theft. Another fact is that there is no community in that region that does not know where these so-called illegal refiners operate. Oil theft should be fought collectively, because it is threatening the economy." Similarly, an economist, Prof. Sheriffdeen Tella, said if the drop in the oil production persists it could derail the implementation of the 2013 budget. He said, "Considering our oil production figures, if this drop persists for a month, it could become a threat to the economy. And if it persists even longer, it could have  a serious effect on this year's budget. That means that oil theft must not be allowed to continue. "The puzzle is that those who steal the oil are not invisible. Why have they not been stopped? There seems to be collaboration between the oil thieves and those who are supposed to be monitoring them." He added that security agents responsible for stopping oil theft should be investigated and punished if found guilty of aiding oil thieves.

Have a look at How Nigerian Celebrities Make A Lot Of Money

Although most celebrities earn much from entertaining their fans, they also venture into other businesses from which they rake in a lot of dough. Saturday Beats beams the torch on some celebs and their various businesses. AY The question on everybody's lips when it comes to this dark-skinned comedian from Ondo state is, how does he do it? He may not be the funniest comedian in the land, but he is one of the wealthiest and most business oriented. He recently bought his wife a car worth about N10m. He gained fame through impersonating Rev. Chris Okotie in his jokes, and in 2006, when he began, he was named the Best Up-Coming Comedian in Nigeria. Seven years down the line, he has the AY Show which gets good reviews. AY is the CEO, Corporate World Entertainment, an outfit that is focused on packaging events and providing contents for radio and television. His outfit powers AY Live, The AY Show and Open Mic Challenge -the monthly talent hunt programme that produced the likes of Emeka Smith, MC Shakara, Elenu, and Seyi Law. The newest spinoff of the AY brand is AY's Crib. He has also ventured into writing, with a book, AY's Diary. Kefee The beautiful songstress has been in the entertainment industry for a while. However, she became more popular with her hit song, Kokoroko, in which she featured Timaya. She is known more for singing gospel music and is often referred to as the chorus leader, which is also the name of her latest album. The music diva showed that her talent is not limited to singing. She proved she is a wonder woman in the kitchen by launching into catering business. She has her continental restaurant, Branama Kitchen, situated in Mende area of Maryland, Lagos. Tuface Innocent Idibia aka Tuface has been in the game for a long while. One of the pioneers of modern day R'n'B in Nigeria, the music star has certainly made his mark in the industry. He has his own record label where he has two striving artistes, Dammy Krane and Rocksteady. 2baba, as he is often referred to, has also invested heavily in real estate. Ever heard of the club, Rumours, situated in GRA Ikeja, Lagos? It is a joint business between him and Dotun Olatoye who is a well-known name in club business in Nigeria. Teju Babyface He launched himself as a comic merchant. As his stage name implies, the multi-talented young man endeared himself to his fans with his hilarious jokes, dimunitive stature and 'baby' face. Some believe that was what he used to charm his bride who is a former beauty queen. Although he still does his comedy gigs, he is known for hosting the funniest talk show in the land - The Teju Babyface show - where he invites personalities and interviews them in a humorous manner. Omotola Jalade-Ekehinde Although she is a mother of four kids, this diva goes by the nickname, Omosexy, and no one can contest that she is sexy. The 'bootilicious' screen queen has been graced television screens for decades and has succeeded in revamping herself and blending with trends. Recently she was listed as one Time Magazine's most influential 100 people in the world. The philanthropist now has her own reality television show, The Real Me.

Dwarf Killed When Friend Poured 27 Tablets Into His Beer As A Joke

he poured 27 tablets into his beer as a joke, a court heard. Lee Webster, 26, played the fatal prank as he drank with 4ft Jason Wood and other friends, it was said. The prosecution claim he tipped 27 mirtazapine anti-depressants into his drink when Mr. Wood, 30, left the room to go to the toilet. Webster then disposed of the prescription pill bottle in a bid to cover up what he done – but Mr. Wood died three hours later, it was claimed. The alarm was raised when the pair’s friend, Ian Sheringham went back to the house in Ramsgate, Kent and found Mr Wood slumped in a ground floor armchair, the Daily Mail reports. He desperately tried to revive him before calling the victim’s sister Tracey Wood, 38, and the emergency services. Webster did not tell anybody what he had done until a month later when he confessed to his father that he had spiked the drink, Maidstone Crown Court heard. He also told his sister Stephanie he had put the pills in the drink because he ‘thought it would be a laugh’. And he later told friends he felt bad because he ‘felt as if he had killed Jason’, the court heard. Webster denies the manslaughter of Mr. Wood last October and the alternative charge of administering poison or noxious substance as to endanger life. The jury heard that the concoction of pills and alcohol killed Mr. Wood, who weighed just six stone. The court heard when Jason returned to his beer he complained it ‘tasted funny’ but Mr Webster told him to ‘just drink it’. A preliminary post mortem examination last October found Mr Wood died from an abnormal collection of fluid in his lungs and a frothy fluid in his airways. Samples were taken for analysis and found Mr Wood had nearly three times the drink-drive limit of alcohol in his blood and antidepressant mirtazapine. There was found to be no heart problems and no other significant findings although the catalyst for the death remained a ‘mystery at that stage’ the prosecution told the court. But on November 23 last year Webster sent Ian Sheringham a message saying: ‘Ian, I am sorry, I put 27 of my mirtazapine tablets in Jason’s beer,’ the jury heard. Mr Haycroft added: ‘That is the clearest of admissions that he did it. ‘Webster asked what he should do and Mr Sheringham told him he should hand himself in. ‘Lee said when Jason came back into the room he said his beer tasted funny. ‘Lee said he told Jason: “No it doesn’t, just drink it”. Jason then drank his beer.’ Webster was arrested on November 28 last year but lied to police at Margate police station, said the prosecutor. Mr Haycroft told the court: ‘The next day he told the truth and accepted he put something like 27 anti-depressant tablets in Jason’s beer. ‘He said he did it as just a joke and didn’t intent to hurt him.’ Mr Haycroft added: ‘The opinion was the cause of death was an overdose of mirtazapine in combination with an excess of alcohol. ‘The amount of the drug together with alcohol would be a significant factor in his death. ‘Mr Webster must have committed an unlawful act. He told police and a number of other people he put 27 anti-depressant tablets in Jason’s beer can without him knowing. ‘We say it was a significant contribution to the cause of death and more than trivially contributed to it. No-one suggests he intended to kill him.’ An expert told the court that she considered consuming 27 of the tablets ‘more than minimally’ contributed to death. The court heard Mr Webster spoke to his sister before being interviewed by police and even considered doing ‘a runner’. The trial continues.

God Has Told Him To Adopt Rescued Chinese Baby Flush In Toilet. Says Former Chelsea Star Adrian Mutu.

Disgraced former Chelsea star Adrian Mutu wants to adopt the baby who was flushed down a toilet in China. The 34-year-old striker, kicked out of Stamford Bridge in 2004 for taking cocaine, said he hopes to approach officials about the plan. He spoke as the tot was released from hospital and taken home by his grandparents – six days after being cut free from the four inch pipe. Dad-of-three Mutu, who now plays for Corsican-based French team AC Ajaccio, told a TV station in his native Romania: “When I saw the baby I said, ‘I must adopt him, he has been sent to me by God.” However, the footballer is in for a massive disappointment as Romania is not on the list of 17 countries whose citizens can adopt from China.   The baby was today being looked after by his mother’s parents at their home. She is still in hospital with a fever. A man also came forward claiming to be the father and asked for a ­paternity test. The boy will be reunited with his 22-year-old mum when she is discharged and the man revealed he also wants to help bring him up. One official said: “The baby was taken by his mother’s family. His father’s family went to the hospital too. The baby left in good health condition.” The unnamed mum gave birth to the tot, known as Baby 59, on Saturday over a squat toilet at the block of flats where she lives in Pujiang. She claims he accidentally slipped down the pipe and she tried to rescue him with a broom but he got stuck.   Police accepted her story and she will not face prosecution. Firefighters found the baby wedged in the pipe and covered in sewage. He suffered a small skull ­fracture and grazes when cut free. His mum got pregnant after a one-night stand with the dad. She could not afford an abortion. Babies are often dumped in China because of upbringing costs and the stigma of being an unmarried mum.

Nigeria To Generate N100bn Annually From Cocoa

CEO/Managing Director, Armajaro Nigeria Limited Wim Groen has disclosed that the country can generate about N100 billion yearly from cocoa production. Making this disclosure during a training/empowerment programme organised for the cocoa farmers at Ijan Ekiti yesterday, Groen said revitalization of cocoa production would boost the nation’s economy positively. Nigeria produced about 200,000 metric tons of cocoa last year and realized about N70billion, Groen noted. He therefore said states and federal governments should rely less on allocations and concentrate more on the production of cocoa and other cash and tree crops.