Tuesday 21 May 2013

Indian Acid Attack Victim Fights For Justice


At 17, Sonali Mukherjee had everything going for her. She was a beautiful, intelligent and ambitious young woman, dedicated to excelling in her studies.

She was president of the Student Union, captain of the National Cadet Corps and an honor student set to pursue a PhD in sociology despite her modest family background -- her father used to work as a security guard in the eastern Indian state of Jharkhand and her mother was a housewife.

"I had seen my parents struggle for the most basic things, so I strived to achieve something big so that I could give my family a better life," she said.

However, Mukherjee's life changed after three male students from her college started harassing her. She didn't respond to their advances, so they threatened to destroy her.

At first, she wasn't intimidated. During her time in the cadet corps, an organization in all schools and colleges in India aimed at grooming students to join the military, Mukherjee had won several prizes for her shooting skills.

On a hot summer day when Mukherjee was fast asleep on the roof of her house, the three men threw a jug of acid on her. For the first few seconds she was in shock and didn't know what had happened.

"All I could feel was this tremendous amount of pain, it was burning, like someone had thrown me into a fire," she tells CNN 10 years after the 2003 attack.

In the fraction of a second it took for the acid to melt her face and part of her upper chest, Mukherjee lost her ability to see, hear, eat, walk and talk.

Mukherjee, now 27, said she looked and felt like a corpse.

"I had hardly even lived my life, but that one incident changed the entire meaning of my life. It felt like the light had gone out all of a sudden, and darkness had surrounded me on all sides. I had no hope, I didn't know what to do," she says.

Mukherjee's heartbroken grandfather died soon after and her mother fell into depression -- only her father remained resilient.

"I can't tell you how much it hurts me to see my daughter in this state but being the head of the family I couldn't afford to break down," Charan Das Mukherjee says.

And with sheer willpower and determination both father and daughter continue their fight for justice and for recovery.

It felt like the light had gone out all of a sudden, and darkness had surrounded me on all sides.
Sonali Mukherjee, acid attack victim
"I decided I don't want to die like this, or live like this. I decided I can't give up, I have to get better, I have to punish those guys and I have to support my family. I held my father's hand and crawled back to life."

Her father sold their family's ancestral land, gold and spent every penny of savings on her treatment -- she recently underwent her 27th reconstructive surgery.

In 2012, Mukherjee decided to participate in the country's most popular game show -- the Indian edition of "Who Wants To Be A Millionaire?"

She took part because she needed the money and she wanted the world to know her plight as a victim of an acid attack.

"I've grown up watching your films and now I can't see you but I can feel you," she told host Amitabh Bachchan, who is also India's biggest superstar.

She won the $40,000 jackpot, enabling her to move to the Indian capital, New Delhi, for better medical treatment.

"When she came to us she had 98% burns. She had no ears, no eyes, no eyelids, no nose, no lips, no scalp and no chest," said her doctor, BLK Hospital's Sanjeev Bagai.

Bagai and his medical team have managed to reconstruct her lips, eyelids, nose, but the challenge now is to give her "some kind of a normal face, somewhere close to what a normal human being would look like," he says.

The men who scarred her for life were freed after just two years in jail.

Mukherjee has appealed the court's decision but years on she's yet to get a date in court.

"My father spent every penny, hoping I would get justice. But in the end we lost everything, while the criminals are out there."

India passed a new law in April that punishes perpetrators of acid attacks with 10 years to life in prison, along with a fine.


My Wife Is Too Lazy, Husband Tells Court


Malam Wahab Ahmed of Ojagboro area, Ilorin, on Tuesday, told an Ilorin Area Court that he was seeking for divorce from his wife, Abike Wahab, for her lazy nature and "I-don't-care attitude."

The 48-year-old man told the court that he had been married for six years now and that his wife hardly swept their bedroom and surroundings whenever she woke up in the morning,"not until I force her to do so."

The petitioner told the court that his wife was fond of sleeping and watching movies thereby abandoning her domestic activities.

According to him, their marriage was contracted in 2007 and has produced two male children.

"My lord, I want an end to this marriage because I cannot cope with her dirty and lazy habit anymore."

The respondent objected to the prayer of her husband, saying she was still interested in the marriage.

"My husband complains a lot and forces me to do things that were beyond my capacity. I promise to do his wish henceforth."

She prayed the court for an adjournment for her to make a reconciliatory move.

The Presiding Judge, Mr Ibrahim Abdulquadri, however adjourned the case to June 6 for a report of settlement or continuation of hearing.


Relationships: How To Tell When You’re Being Lied To


We all lie at some point in our lives. Some tell little white lies because they are afraid that the truth will hurt someone, others tell substantial lies because they are trying to cover up something that they have done. Sometimes this can become an everyday thing.

Researchers at the University of Wisconsin, Madison, and Harvard Business Schools have conducted a study that looks at the two main types of liars.

There are the traditional liars who say things that they know aren't true, and then there are the "deceivers by omission" who deliberately withhold information to change the truth.

There are three habits that liars frequently engage in; they talk more than others, they swear more than others, they speak in the third person more.

The reason they say that people swear more is because they are uncomfortable about lying. Omitters tend to speak less and they speak in short sentences, never elaborating their stories.

Honesty is important in relationships and friendships, but it is even more important in business. You need to be able to trust the person that you are dealing with, especially when it comes to your finances.

Try to seek out business partners that are not too tight lipped but are also not too excitable and talkative. This is not set in stone however.

There are introverts and extroverts that exhibit these characteristics. To avoid pushing away one of these personalities, look more for changes in demeanor when someone is talking to you. This can tell you more about what they are saying.

There are so many different ways of lying such as through email, text message, and using Photoshop to alter photos on Instagram.

With so much lying going on, it is no wonder that people no longer trust anyone.

One of the keys to discerning the truth is to also trust your instincts. If something doesn't seem right, there is usually a reason why you feel like it does not seem right.


Nigerian Soccer Star Taiye Taiwo turns 25 today in UK and his twin brother turns 33 in Nigeria.

Nigerian Soccer Star Taiye Taiwo turns 25 today in UK and his twin brother turns 33 in Nigeria.



 Is God not a Great God?

Lwkmd....

Singer Asa Involved in Fatal Accident!!!


Singer Asa miraculously survived a fatal accident some hours ago.  She took to twitter to narrate how God delivered her....She was taking a walk when she had to cross an intersection only for a car, whose driver wasn't looking, to hit her and up, sent her flying. Thankfully, Asa's padded butt eased her landing. see her tweets below:

Riccardo Tisci says his best sexual experience was with a famous man

Hehehe! Famous man? Who might he be talking about? For those who don't know, Ricardo is the Givency designer who was recently rumoured to be Kanye West's gay lover. Not that I believe it o! Anyway, Ricardo did an interview with Vogue Homme last month and when asked to reveal his "best" sexual experience, the fashion mogul said it was with a well known man!  Read it below
"I have several but the one I think immediately is an experience I had with a man who is known. I never imagined that something could happen between us and it's still the hottest weekend of my life. Nobody really knows if this guys is straight or gay, it is a mystery. However, I was attracted to him, his way of speaking, thinking, walking, dressing. I love what he does an an artist. This weekend both, the intimate moment has really reinforced my attraction to him."
He might be talking about Frank Ocean. There have been rumours. Anyway, hope he doesn't write a tell-all book one day! :-)

Governor Oshiomhole hosts comedian I Go Save on his birthday

Edo State Governor Comrade Adams Oshiomole hosted comedian I Go Save and a few of his friends to a birthday dinner today Monday May 20th at the Edo State Government House. The comedian pictured above (far right) with the governor and P-Square. Another photo after the cut..